Welcome, and thank you for your interest. I’m Dr. Nancy Irwin. As a doctor of psychology and a therapeutic hypnotist, I know for a FACT that we are all born to win. We LEARN to fail; and whatever we learn, we can un-learn. Therefore, it is my honor to dissolve that negative programming and free your inner winner.
I treat over 100 issues including fears, smoking, anxiety, insomnia, phobias, weight control, and it is my mission to heal the sexually abused.
I recently published a nonfiction on midlife crisis: You-Turn: Changing Direction in Midlife (Amazon.com) www.makeayou-turn.com
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I always appreciate the opportunity to comment in big publications such as The New York Times. Sometimes, I am able to reach a larger audience, which is always great, seeing that I aim to empower as many people as possible.
In light of Valentine’s Day, I recently provided commentary on an article titled “Love You! Now, the Difficult Stuff …” NY Times writer, Eric V. Copage, gathered a range of experts to provide insight on how couples should communicate and ask questions in preparation for marriage. Interesting comments were provided by Arielle Ford, Diana Kirshner, Rachel A Sussman and others.
“AS Valentine’s Day nears — always prime time for engagements — marriage experts advise asking some unromantic questions after posing the big romantic one.
Surprisingly few newly engaged couples seem to have these frank discussions, some of which can serve to avoid painful misunderstandings later on.”
I wrote, “Some partners will shut down when uncomfortable questions are asked, yet others “are happy to be open books. If your partner wants some privacy — as opposed to secrecy — you might want to honor that.”
This past Tuesday, I appeared on Wellness For The Real World with Dr. Veronica Anderson. It is always a pleasure to appear on this show, which boasts a weekly listenership of 26 million worldwide, with 7 million of those listeners representing the United States. Dr. Veronica and I, along with other guests during the show, discussed ways of losing weight by having the right mentality.
Sure, we’ve all done the diets, the exercise fads. But the secret to weight loss (or most anything) is finding and maintaining the right mindset — then all the details seem to take care of themselves.
In a recent commentary in The Star Ledger, I gave insight into how considering the gender of a job interviewer, and adapting your communication style to that of the gender, may help you secure that position you are applying for.
A female candidate recently was offered the opportunity to interview for a job with a large financial institution. She knew that she was going to be interviewed by two individuals, one a man and the other a woman. Her job coach suggested that she approach the male and the female differently, which she did.
When she interviewed with the male she used words like “productivity,” “ROI,” “effectiveness,” “efficiency” and “bottom line.” She focused on keeping her answers short and to the point. She sought to be “friendly but strong.” When she interviewed with the woman, however, she used words such as “team,” “helping” and “contributing.” When asked about her successes she gave examples of how she had helped her team to succeed, and how she mentored others in the department who needed help. She felt that she had effectively connected with both interviewers and that the adaptation of her communication style to reflect the interviewer’s gender made a “big difference.” The result, she received a job offer. The coach who advised her to adjust her communication style based on the gender of the interviewer was Frank De Raffele, co-author of the just released book, “Business Networking and Sex: It’s Not What You Think!” (McGraw Hill/ Entrepreneur Press 2012)
According to De Raffele, although “HR professionals are trained to be objective, and they generally are, if you can get them to identify with you on a deeper level, it can make the difference in getting offered the job or not.” This connection, he notes, does not necessarily happen at a conscious level. The interviewer may not know why he or she feels a strong connection with you. It can result not so much from the substance of what you say, but rather from “your communication style and showing respect for their point of view.”
To read the full article, including my commentary, visit The Star Ledger.
In life, it’s easy to get on the wrong path or get sidetracked, or even get run off the road. Maybe you reluctantly agreed to follow in your father’s footsteps and become a doctor, or you had dreams of being a writer until an English teacher scoffed at your talents. And now here you are, eager for new challenges or revisiting old ones, yet you find yourself stalled with excuses. When you are in midlife you might be thinking, “Wow, how can I make a change? I already have 40 or 50 years invested in this one path”. “Can’t teach an old dog new tricks.” “I’m too old to start over.” “It’s too late.” “Oh, I could never do that.” “I’ve been doing this for so long, why quit now?”
You are not alone. If you are more than one of the 84 million born in the US between 1946 and 1964, of course known as the baby boomers, and you have reached middle age, you may be looking for a new life, to begin again and create the choices that you want.
I say midlife is the time to turn things around. A U-turn is when a vehicle goes 180 degrees into the opposite direction of its previous path. Likewise, a YOU-turn is a complete reversal in opinion, action or policy. When you embrace a YOU-turn into your life, you set in motion a self-fulfilling prophecy of empowerment and possibilities.
I try to avoid the word resolutions because it tends to have such a negative connotation. People hear that word and they think, oh there’s another thing that I’m never gonna do and it becomes the butt of the joke; people don’t take it seriously.
So, I think it Its much healthier to set a goal, s e t a g o a l! A realistic one! Set smart goals, S-M-A-R-T. Make sure that they are very simple and specific. So, just saying in general, “I wanna make more money”… well if you find a five dollars bill on the floor, you got more money. So you wanna say, “I wanna double my salary, or take on ten new patients, or I want to make 125 dollars next year.
Make it very specific and idiot proof. And then make it measurable and meaningful so everyone will know when you’ve gotten your goal. You can prove you lost ten pounds instead of just saying, “well, I lost weight”. You want to make sure it’s absolutely measurable and you want to make sure that it’s meaningful to you. If it doesn’t have any meaning to you, why set the goal!?!
To hear more great advice on goal setting and how to effectively achieve your goals in 2012, listen to the interview below with Mike Montgomery of WBGZ in Alton, Illinois.
I recently appeared on the popular radio show, Your Life After Trauma, hosted by Michele Rosenthal (@MicheleTrauma) on Seaview Radio. During the show, I give great tips on how you can discover your life purpose after trauma, plus why it’s so important to be a friend to youself.
If you get stuck after trauma, it’s likely for a few reasons:
You keep looking back to assess the meaning of what happened
You disconnect from the present moment due to fear and isolation
You cannot imagine the future because your view of yourself and the world has been altered
Part of overcoming these blocks depends on your ability to reconnect to yourself in the present by discovering the purpose of who you are. Part of doing that involves becoming a friend to yourself.
I recently appeared on Wellness For The Real World with Dr. Veronica Anderson. The show currently has 26 million weekly listeners worldwide, with 7 million of those listeners representing the United States. Dr. Veronica and I, along with other guests during the show, discussed “Keeping Family Secrets”.
Do you have deep dark secrets in your family? Skeletons in the closet? A child born out of wedlock, an adopted child who never knew it, a prison term, a marriage outside the expected race or religion, maybe a second family unbeknownst to all? What has keeping these secrets done to you? What has it done to others? We’ll talk with experts and those who’ve kept their silences for years.
To listen to the show please click visit http://www.blogtalkradio.com/wellnessfortherealworld/2011/12/21/keeping-family-secrets
Are Hollywood Stars Enabling Sexual Predators By Not Naming Names?
Gwyneth Paltrow and Megan Fox have both told their casting couch tales.
So why are entertainment pros mum when it comes to sexual predators in Hollywood?
“Actors don’t name names for several reasons. Many times it is because they want to move on from that unpleasant experience, or perhaps they succumbed to it, or the ‘perpetrator’ was so huge that they do not want to defame that person because they think highly of their work,” Los Angeles-based celebrity psychologist, Dr. Nancy Irwin, told FOX411’s Pop Tarts column. “Others don’t want to be labeled a ‘snitch’ or feel nobody will believe them because it is such a cliché. Sadly, the cliché does perpetuate, probably because the creative process in and of itself can be a seductive process, and the temptation is non-stop in Hollywood.”
Hollywood-based career strategist Suzannah Galland said she hears many horror stories from friends who are top actresses. These victims don’t name names “out of fear,” but she says code of silence can turn tragic…
Having your own business can not only be stressful, but can be expensive too. So, to help you navigate through the vast array of free resources that are out there to help small businesses, the CarolRoth.com contributor network of entrepreneurs and experts have shared their favorite free resources.
I also was included in the article providing 1 of the 60 tips. My tip is below with a few others that I chose to highlight.
1. MY TIP: SCORE!
Need a mentor? Google S.C.O.R.E….it is a society of retired executives across a broad range of diverse businesses. This free national resource aligns you with a retired exec in your field who can help you with your business plan, direction, vision, etc. You can work one on one in person or via phone, email, Skype, carrier pigeon, etc. They were helpful to me when I set up my own private practice. I highly recommend SCORE.
2. GET FREE IMAGES
When you write your blogs or online articles, make sure you always add an image to it. Having a great picture really adds value to your story and vastly increases your readership rate. Personally, I use Stock.Xchng (their website is http://www.sxc.hu) as it is free and they always have a great selection and variety of free images by different photographers.
3. THERE IS GOLD IN LINKEDIN
One place that I find tons of business leads is on LINKEDIN. Specifically, I always check the questions that my group sends. I see that a person needs help on a certain topic, and I offer the HELP for free. I make no solicitation then. In many cases, the Linkedin person refers other business to me or invites me to bid on a specific project. It’s all about offering to HELP first. No pitching biz on Linkedin.
4. CONNECT WITH THE REPORTER
My favorite free resource for business is ReporterConnection.com The requests are specifically for entrepreneurs and small business owners. Overall, I have found more opportunities responding to their requests than those found elsewhere. However, I subscribe to a few to make certain visibility of my services is always available. Contact the site to have the requests emailed three times per day. Good luck!
5. RELIABLE AND FREE LEAD GENERATION
One of the most useful free resources for Entrepreneurs is a reliable and free Lead generation database. Not many people know about ZoomInfo.com. And even fewer people know about their Community Edition. When you subscribe to ZoomInfo CE, it gets linked to your MS Outlook. You get access to all of their contacts/company databases which are pretty good and validated. And in return, ZoomInfo makes use of contacts from your Outlook.
It’s pretty unfortunately common this time of year (the holiday blues); and now there are people are overseas at war, people are getting laid off, they’ve lost a love one to death or divorce, or all sort of ways. And holidays can really underscore that pain and make us feel more low than ever, and it can also trigger some unpleasant childhood memories for a lot of people.
So I have some tips for people if they want to avoid that and sort of try to break that pattern or be able to accept, you know, the unfortunate situation right now and still be able enjoy the holidays. Cause holidays typically involve tradition, or rituals, or anything familiar; try your best to just accept that this year it is gonna be different, and embrace the difference by deliberately doing something differently, in major or even subtle ways, like uh, sing different carols, go to a different church, eat different foods, eat your meal at a different time of the day. Anything that you can do different is going to sort of wake you up and allow you to see that things are different and kind of be deliberately clumsy- if you will- in a fun and creative way.
You wanna make sure that you stay active, as everybody knows, any and all physical activity or exercise or movement of any kind can help alleviate depression from a chemical standpoint; it just jump starts those endorphins. It wont make all of your problems or issues go away but, boy, it can give you fresh perspective on it. Watch some great holiday comedy, laughter also jump starts those endorphins. It goes a great way to offset or combat depression.
You can also be of service. I know your station (WBGZ) has supported a local family and that’s a beautiful thing to do because nothing lifts up more than doing selfless giving. So be of service in some way. Volunteer at a soup kitchen, or a hospital for terminally ill kids, or bake cookies and take it to a retirement home for some lonely old people that would love to see a fresh young face. That would allow you to see that you are grateful for all the things and blessings that you do have, no matter what kind of situation you are in.
And, you know, accept your situation; try not to make anything more of it nor anything less of it. We sometimes tend to dramatized our situation thinking we’re the only one, and we got it worse than anyone else- myself included. But accepting that it is what it is, coping with it in the healthiest manner as possible can lead to psychological health and a better mood no matter what you’re going through.
Wellness For The Real World – Think Yourself Thin
This past Tuesday, I appeared on Wellness For The Real World with Dr. Veronica Anderson. It is always a pleasure to appear on this show, which boasts a weekly listenership of 26 million worldwide, with 7 million of those listeners representing the United States. Dr. Veronica and I, along with other guests during the show, discussed ways of losing weight by having the right mentality.
Sure, we’ve all done the diets, the exercise fads. But the secret to weight loss (or most anything) is finding and maintaining the right mindset — then all the details seem to take care of themselves.
To listen to the show please visit Wellness For The Real World.
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